The Question Behind the Question- How to Hear What Your Client Actually Needs (Not Just What They're Asking)
When your client asks, "Should I leave my job?" — that's not really what they're asking.
Chances are, underneath that question is something else. Maybe it's "Am I allowed to want something different?" or "Will I be okay if I take this risk?" or "Do you think I'm capable of more?"
The same is true when a client asks, "What do you think I should do?" They're rarely asking for your opinion. They're asking for permission. Or reassurance. Or help trusting themselves.
The best coaching happens when you stop answering the surface question and start responding to what's underneath. This is the skill that separates good coaches from great ones — and it's something you can develop with intention and practice.
In this episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on how I listen for the question behind the question, the common patterns I've noticed after 15 years of coaching, and how to respond in a way that actually moves your clients forward. We're also going deeper into the big existential questio...
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Wendy McCallum
Business Coach for Coaches, Burnout & Alcohol Coach for High Achievers
I’m Wendy McCallum — a coach, mentor, and former lawyer who’s spent the last 15 years helping people build lives and businesses they actually want to wake up to. When I first left law, I had no guidebook for how to do this coaching thing. I floundered — hard. I undercharged, overthought, and overinvested in shiny solutions that didn’t really move the needle. But every mistake taught me something, and eventually, I built the kind of coaching practice I once only dreamed about — one that’s profitable, sustainable, and full of work I truly love. Today, I coach two kinds of people: ✨ Busy professionals who are ready to make big, meaningful changes — whether that's finding balance, recovering from burnout, or rethinking their relationship with alcohol. ✨ And newer coaches who are building their businesses from the ground up and want a clear, sustainable path forward without all the gimmicks and noise. Whether I’m helping someone simplify their business or reclaim their personal life, the heart of my work is the same: giving smart, capable people the clarity, encouragement, and real-world tools they need to move forward — in a way that feels good, not overwhelming. If you’re ready for something better — in your work, your life, or your business — you’re in the right place. And I’m so glad you’re here. IMPORTANT: Blog content including Wendy's podcasts are for information purposes only and not intended in any way to be health advice. Please see full Terms of Use, by clicking on the link in the footer of this page, for details.
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